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The gender lines are blurring …. and I’m okay with it

Lita Currie by Lita Currie
February 28, 2023
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So, here’s a riddle: A man and his son are involved in an accident, and both are rushed to the hospital. The boy is wheeled into surgery and the surgeon, upon recognising the boy, exclaimed: “I cannot operate! This boy is my son!” How is that possible?

Growing up in the 1970’s this riddle flummoxed me and my friends. We just couldn’t work it out. The answer, of course, is that the surgeon is the boy’s mother. If you guessed correctly, well done! It is a testament of how far we have come in creating gender equality.

This change was brought home to me this week when my 11-year old son, after watching me knit a scarf, asked me to show him how. I proceeded to teach him to knit and crochet and he took to it like a duck to water. Kids love doing creative stuff. As he knitted a pink blanket for his hamster, he exclaimed: “I can’t wait to show the kids at school!” There was no sense of knitting being “girls’ stuff” and no inkling of the possibility of being teased. It gave me hope that we really have moved on.

Unfortunately, gender inequality shows up when we don’t necessarily intend it to. When a friend’s daughter graduated from pre-school recently, my friend was appalled to see that the boys got book prizes about bugs and insects. In contrast the girls got…recipe books. She took it up with the principal, who was genuinely surprised that anyone would be offended by their choice. Evidently no-one had considered that it’s ok for girls to be interested in bugs.  To the principal’s credit she promised to ensure that the prizes are either similar in future, or that the kids have a choice of book.

When my eldest was about 5 years old he saw me changing the electric plug on an appliance. Intrigued, he asked me why I was doing “Dad’s job”. I explained that women can do anything that men can do – like electrical work, and in turn men can do stuff that women usually do, like cook and bake. Thinking about what I said, he responded: “So, the only difference between girls and boys is the stuff on their bodies?” Yes, my boy, I couldn’t have said it better myself.

So, how do we battle gender inequity in our everyday lives? Here’s a couple of pointers.

 

  1. Pay attention to what you say. I found myself the other day teasing my husband when playing cricket telling him that he “throws like a girl.” As the words left my mouth, I recoiled in horror. I immediately apologised. Pay attention to the language we use and don’t use feminine characteristics to put someone down. (Don’t put anyone down, anyway, and don’t use female qualities to do it!)

 

  1. Pay attention to what we teach our kids. Boys wear blue and girls wear pink? No, not necessarily anymore. I focus on teaching my two boys that they have a whole world of choice in front of them and the choice is theirs. They don’t have to comply to gender stereotypes.

 

  1. Call it out when you see it. Similar to my friend, when you see people being treated differently purely based on gender, ask why. Even if we have the best intentions, some of these biases are deeply ingrained and difficult to see. Asking the question might just create the awareness it needs to create a change.

 

  1. Ask others to keep you honest. Biases are not necessarily wrong. But they are deeply held, and it is difficult to see them when they show up. I have asked my family and friends to keep me honest when they see me applying gender-based judgement without thinking and just gently ask me why.

 

  1. If needed, actively fight against it. Both my boys are in the Scouts. Up until a couple of years ago, the troop in our area didn’t allow girls to join. Although most of the other troops in the country embraced gender equity, the troop leader was set in his ways and just refused point-blank. I rallied a group of parents together and we launched a campaign to change it. Some parents were against it, but we managed to get girls voted in by a majority. The troop leader resigned in response and some parents moved their sons to a different group – a pity because many were passionate about Scouts and had decades of experience. But in their unwillingness to change, they made themselves irrelevant.

As a final paragraph to this article, I tried to think of examples of when gender inequity would be valid. Women and children first in emergencies? Why? No, it doesn’t feel right. Ladies first? No, that also doesn’t sit well with me. I appreciate the gesture, but I can open my own door, thanks. I believe that it is about people, not gender. I believe that if we can look at the individual person rather than their gender, we can make better decisions. And that’s how we change the world.

 

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Lita Currie

Lita Currie

Lita Currie has over 20 years’ experience in learning and development, with expertise in management and leadership. She has trained and consulted in Africa, the UK and north America and has been instrumental in designing and implementing global development programmes across a variety of disciplines, in particular Human Resources, Finance and Corporate Affairs. She is an expert in visual learning and performance management, using graphic facilitation to ensure that the learning is effective.

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